Hi Jennifer and welcome to Talking Scot
If the man Sarah has found is yours, this is the closest i found to him on
http://www.moray.gov.uk (follow the local heritage links ). The copy and paste doesnt translate very well so will need double checking.
Reference No.: NM009760
Surname: BRANDER
Forename(s): JAMES
Date of Birth: c. 1827
Biography: LIVED AT ST MICHAELS
Death Details
Date of Death: 09 DEC 1862
Age:35
Headstone Ref: S106
Place of Death: SOUTH GUILDRY STREET ELGIN
Newspaper Articles
COURANT date 11/12/1862 page 8/6
FG date 16/12/1862 page 3/6
Added later...........
http://www.anesfhs.org.uk/databank/miindex/miindex.php
Has a booklet: Mis of Spynie Churchyard (AA135)
burial ground: Spynie
stone: 106
James Brander 9 Dec 1862
So there is / was headstone.
Scotland - Donaldson / Moggach / Shaw / Geddes / Sim / Gray / Mackie / Richards / Joel / Coull / Mckimmie / Panton / McGregor
Ireland and Scotland - Casey / McDade / Phillips / McCandle / Dinely / Comaskey + various spellings